Remain a player on life's stage
Saturday, March 16, 2019
When my husband and I go to the theater, we usually get front and center seats. We have also enjoyed living our lives, where ever we have been, in that same location. It’s our choice and the privilege of the young. If you work hard, aim high, and fit right in, you get the good seats.
But maybe not in our senior years. There seems to be a squeezing out, shoving over, and a misplaced identity in the culture of the young. Their music, screen time, technology, treasures, tats, texts, clothes, heirlooms, consumer interests, face time, humor, hubris, social norms, you name it, seem to be for the young but not necessarily for the young at heart.
There’s a lot about getting older that has to do with getting the obstructed-view seats and living a little bit more on the sidelines. We may not be society’s most prized possessions. Nor are we the first generation to experience this phenomenon.
But I do wonder if we’ve become the generation most isolated from our young people. They don’t seem to easily welcome the wisdom of the old or our intrusion on their space, time or wealth.
However, even if we have to proceed with caution, young people are worth the effort of staying in their lives. They too are working hard to stay relevant, sane and happy in a very complicated, unforgiving world.
Strange though from the bleachers, we may still be the lucky ones. We have life stories already told, loved ones, precious memories, the treasure trove of each other’s company and the blessing of each new day. We are graced with poise, patience and the knowledge that the circle is unbroken. We are tethered to them as they are to us and to all those who have gone before us and will come after.
Alison Lord Stuart