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Dec. 3 Short Answers

Short Answers

Paula Forman and Jeff Johnson

Sunday, December 3, 2017


Dear Short Answers: After my parents died a couple of years ago, none of my siblings really wanted to go through all of their possessions since it simply felt too sad. So we paid a mover to pack everything up and it now sits in a storage facility.

I am now feeling guilty about letting their personal possessions go to waste, and I certainly don’t want their stuff to get sold at some auction if we ever forget to pay the monthly fees. My siblings disagree and just want to forget about this. Would it be wrong for me to take it upon myself to clean out the storage locker, or do I need to get everybody’s permission to do this? — Ready Now

Dear Ready: You can volunteer to do an inventory as a first step — but this is likely to be a journey.


Dear Short Answers: A woman in my office announced (very proudly) that she was pregnant about 4 months ago. Since then, she has never mentioned it and she doesn’t appear to be a bit pregnant at all. Everyone is gossiping about whether she was ever actually pregnant or perhaps had a miscarriage or an abortion. Is it appropriate to ask her? Or should we all just pretend that she never said anything and we all just move on? — We are Wondering

Dear “We”: Get a life. The answer is obvious.


Dear Short Answers: A very close friend of mine (with a lot of money) married a much younger woman about two years ago. Fortunately, he has a prenuptial agreement in place, but that becomes void after three years of marriage. I know for a fact that his wife is sneaking around behind his back and lying to him and just trying to hold out until the three-year mark arrives. I know that you always tell people to mind their own business when it comes to other people’s marriages. But don’t I owe it to my friend to let him know what’s going on? There is a lot of money at stake here. — A Bro

Dear Bro: The real question is, do you think he will listen? Is a full frontal assault likely to hit the mark? If you are in the mood, and have the time and energy and love, to keep asking questions that will make him see what’s going on, you will have performed a great service.


Dear Short Answers: I run a small business with six employees. Business was not great this year and I’m pretty sure that I will need to lay off one employee. I think they all know this because it’s pretty obvious that we don’t have enough customers to keep everyone busy. Is it better to lay off this person before the holidays so that everybody else can relax? Or should I wait until January? — Wanna Be Fair

Dear Wanna: Wait ’til January.


Dear Short Answers: Don’t you think thin people just have a faster metabolism than the rest of us? — Zoftig

Dear Z: Sorry darling, mostly thin people eat less and exercise more.

Life is complicated. “Short Answers” isn’t. Send a question about whatever is bothering you to reflector@shortanswers.net or go to www.shortanswers.net and a psychologist and sociologist will answer. A selection of the best questions will be printed every Sunday in The Daily Reflector.


Humans of Greenville


Local photographer Joe Pellegrino explores Greenville to create a photographic census of its people.


July 20, 2018

What is winning?

Most would say coming out victorious — being the best.

But Celestine Davis, director of the Down East Flick Fest, says there is much more to winning than being the best — and that’s the point of the film festival that kicks off today at Whirligig Stage…


July 20, 2018

5TH STREET DISTILLERY AND ANNEX: 120 and 122 E. Fifth St. 757-3034.

A.J. MCMURPHY’S: 1914 Turnbury Drive. 355-7956. Today: Teg. Saturday: The Carolina Beach Club. Monday: Cards Against Humanity. Wednesday: Sports trivia. July 29: Will Stovall. 


July 20, 2018


Film festival

The Down East Flick Fest will be held from 11:30 a.m.-8:30 p.m. today-Saturday at Whirligig Stage, 628 S. Pitt St. The event will showcase works by filmmakers from across the state, along with some international entries. Free, but registration is recommended. Seating is limited.…


July 20, 2018

Capsules of movies playing locally. New releases are indicated with an asterisk.

ANT-MAN AND THE WASP — As Scott Lang balances being both a superhero and a father, Hope van Dyne and Dr. Hank Pym present an urgent new mission that finds the Ant-Man fighting alongside The Wasp to uncover…


July 20, 2018


“Revisiting Cornerstones: The Louis Orr Etchings of North Carolina,” will be on exhibit through Oct. 7 in the West Wing Gallery.

NC Civil will present “To the Core,” a journey through the history, identity and expression of the West Greenville Community, through Sept. 2.…


July 20, 2018

Q My daughter and her boyfriend moved into my house a few months ago because they were having financial difficulties and I wanted her to be able to finish her degree, which she did in May. I started noticing how little she wanted to communicate with me, but I thought she was just busy and stressed.…

Carolyn Hax

July 18, 2018

I am the queen of rustic desserts, which is a nice way to label desserts that are rather imperfect. The good news is that there is plenty of room for rustic and, yes, imperfect desserts in anyone's repertoire. In fact, most cuisines tout their own homey version of bubbling, squidgy desserts cobbled…


July 18, 2018

If you are looking for an unpretentious gathering place with tasty American and Irish pub food, plus karaoke, trivia and live music, then head over to A.J. McMurphy’s Irish Pub at 1914 Turnbury Drive. A.J. McMurphy’s is known for great domestic and imported beer, as well as an expansive…


July 18, 2018

Q: I like to try new foods and heard that nut butters are better for you than peanut butter. Is that true? — J.K., Greenville

A: There are of choices of nut butters, and many are being marketed with what I would call exaggerated claims. Many of the butters will tout their micronutrient…


July 18, 2018

Q My husband’s daughter just announced she and her boyfriend are getting married, and we are very happy for them. They are planning a wedding that is not out of line with the kinds of weddings their friends have been having, but that we consider over the top. The cost will likely exceed her…

Carolyn Hax
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