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Jan. 7 Short Answers

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Paula Forman and Jeff Johnson

Sunday, January 7, 2018

KID STUFF

Dear Short Answers: Two good friends of mine recently broke up after a two-year relationship. Both of them seem angry at each other and are trying to get their friends to take sides. Each has basically said that if I see the other person, they won’t talk to me anymore. I like them both and am sorry that it didn’t work out, but I just want them to move on. How do I avoid getting caught in the middle of their foolishness? — Monkey in the Middle

Dear Monkey: They get to vent to a sympathetic ear for a short time. You can be kind without agreeing to demonize the former partner. Try “I’m sorry you are hurting.” If their childish demands continue, you are better off without both of them.

ANTICIPATION

Dear Short Answers: In a very romantic moment last week, my boyfriend asked me to marry him. Actually, he said “if I ask you to marry me, what would you say?’ Of course I said “yes” because I was thrilled. The problem is that he hasn’t mentioned it since. Do you think this was a real proposal or was he just testing the waters? — Uncertain

Dear Uncertain: Sounds like it was a “dress rehearsal.” Give him a little time to do the bended knee thing.

VERY DOUBTFUL

Dear Short Answers: My ex has a new girl friend and I have some promising possibilities. Do you think we can now be friends? — Would Like It to Be So

Dear Would Like: Wishing won’t make it so. We have seen very few situations in which lovers can truly part as friends. It makes head-sense but no heart-sense. When it’s over, it’s over. The residual feelings are just that — residual sludge. Not the stuff of friendship.

A GUY WHO CAN’T HEAR “NO”

Dear Short Answers: There is a guy at work who has asked me out about a hundred times even though I keep saying “no.” He just won’t give up, and I don’t know what to do. He makes sure that we work on projects together every chance he gets and walks by my desk every two minutes. He’s a sweet guy and I don’t want to complain to HR because he really hasn’t done anything wrong. It just makes me feel bad to keep saying “no” and puts me in an awkward position at work. Is there something I can say that would finally get him to stop? — Not Interested

Dear Not: Insensitivity on his part does not require indulgence on your part. The next time he asks you out, or makes you uncomfortable with his attentions, tell him you are just not interested in him and that his continuing interest in you is not appreciated.

YOU ASKED

Dear Short Answers: My sister-in-law served food made by a caterer on Christmas Eve without telling us! Although it was quite tasty, I think she owed us an explanation! I could have outed her — I saw the plastic containers! What do you think? — She Cheated!

Dear Cheated: We think your sister-in-law is smart and you are stupid.

Life is complicated. “Short Answers” isn’t. Send a question about whatever is bothering you to reflector@shortanswers.net or go to www.shortanswers.net and a psychologist and sociologist will answer. A selection of the best questions will be printed every Sunday in The Daily Reflector.

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Humans of Greenville

@HumansofGville

Local photographer Joe Pellegrino explores Greenville to create a photographic census of its people.

Look

April 22, 2018

I’m stuck with a hoarder’s memory.

My brain — my attic, if you will — is entirely too full of random stuff. Entire passages of books I’ve read. Minor details of geography. Lyrics of Broadway show tunes. Odd bits of trivia with little apparent use or connectivity.

I…

Bob Garner

April 22, 2018

NARCISSUS DID NOT FARE WELL

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend has become obsessed about the way she looks, and I think it might be the end of our relationship. Every day she asks me questions about her hair and her dress and her makeup, and honestly, I don’t know and I don’t care.…

Short Answers

April 20, 2018

The 14th Community Youth Arts Festival will bring 150 visual and performing artists to Greenville on Sunday, leaving some people to wonder how on earth they had never heard of this before.

The newly named festival is actually two celebrations in one. The event combines the ECU Youth Arts Festival…

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April 20, 2018

“I Feel Pretty” suffers from a fatal flaw: its premise. Built around the notion that there’s something inherently hilarious — even crazy — about a woman not supermodel-thin or -gorgeous behaving with the confidence of one who is, the comedy treats its star, Amy Schumer,…

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April 20, 2018

Capsules of movies playing locally. New releases are indicated with an asterisk.

BLOCKERS — Three parents try to stop their daughters from having sex on prom night. (1 hour, 42 minutes) Rated R.

BLUMHOUSE’S TRUTH OR DARE — A harmless game of Truth or Dare among friends…

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April 20, 2018

The Grifton Shad Festival, Pitt County’s oldest festival, celebrates its 48th year with events this weekend. For a complete schedule, visit griftonshadfestival.com. Here are some highlights:

Today

5-11 p.m.: Carnival rides open (also 9 a.m.-11 p.m. Saturday)

4-11 p.m.: “Be Mo…

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April 20, 2018

Gray Gallery

A bachelor of fine arts senior group exhibition will open Tuesday. The exhibit will feature the work of Timothy Bada, Brittnee Bade, Tristan Freitag, Lyndsay Hutchins, Hillary Lehman, Elysia Netter, Michael Richardson, Jordan Scurlock, John Sommer and Clinton Todd. A reception will be…

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April 18, 2018

Dear readers: the local markets are reopening. The Leroy James Farmers Market on County Home Road is open from 8 a.m.-1 p.m. Saturdays. The Town of Winterville opened its Thursday night “make it, bake it, craft it or grow it” Market on the Square again. Hours are 4-8 p.m. Support our…

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April 18, 2018

Last year, I introduced you to the widely popular restaurant Dickinson Avenue Public House (DAP House). It offers a rotating menu of inventive dishes to take you from season to season utilizing fresh produce, meats, cheeses, bread, honey, wine and other North Carolina produced items.

Head Chef…

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April 18, 2018

If you like spring rolls, then you will love this salad. All of the goodness typically stuffed into a rice paper-wrapped Thai or Vietnamese roll — rice noodles, shrimp, crisp veggies, fresh herbs and peppers — is jumbled together in a big bowl of salad. The result? You might be tempted…

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