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Short Answers March 4

Short Answers

Paula Forman and Jeff Johnson

Sunday, March 4, 2018


Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have had a miserable marriage since the beginning. In all honesty, the only reason we’ve stayed together at all is because of the sex (which is great). We were seriously talking about divorce, but then she just found out that she was pregnant. Would it be wrong to get a divorce before the baby is born? Or do you think we should stay together in case the baby changes our marriage? Maybe if we focus on a child instead of our problems, things will get better. — Filled with Doubts

Dear Doubts: A baby to save a marriage is hardly a unique idea, albeit a generally unsuccessful one. How about some marriage counseling before the baby is born? A good therapist and some good honest work on your relationship now is the very least you owe your child. A parenting course wouldn’t hurt either.


Dear Short Answers: I know that I shouldn’t have done it, but I sent some nude photos of myself to my boyfriend who posted them on Tumblr and almost everybody I know has seen them. Should I just ignore this humiliating experience and hope that it blows over? Or should I post an explanation on Facebook? I’m not sure what good it would do, but I feel I have to do something. — Really Embarrassed

Dear RE: Forget it. The less said the better.


Dear Short Answers: When my husband found out that regular light bulbs are no longer going to be sold in stores, he bought hundreds of them (and I literally mean hundreds) and is planning to sell them to friends in order to make a huge profit. He hasn’t started to do this yet, but I am already humiliated beyond belief. How do I convince him that this is a really stupid, really embarrassing idea? — Horrified

Dear H: We agree, very embarrassing. Tell him to get it done with one online transaction.


Dear Short Answers: My husband and I were invited to a cocktail and dessert party last week that began at 9 p.m. It seemed rather late to us, but we decided to go anyway. When we arrived at 9:01, we were greeted by 12 people sitting around a dinner table finishing their meal. Apparently, the “in group” was invited to dinner and the riff-raff were invited just for dessert. Doesn’t that seem just a bit rude to you? — Miffed

Dear M: Perhaps there were extenuating circumstances that dictated this situation. But as you tell it, we would indeed be quite offended. “Class A” and “Class B” invitations to a private party is an egregious breach of etiquette. Think twice about your next invitation to this home.


Dear Short Answers: I am going on my first date tomorrow since I split with an ex of many years. I am filled with hope — and tidings of comfort and joy. Am I crazy? — A Believer

Dear Believer: Yep. You are crazy and wonderful and you are, in our opinion, likely to be very happy. We are happy for you no matter how it turns out.

Life is complicated. “Short Answers” isn’t. Send a question about whatever is bothering you to reflector@shortanswers.net or go to www.shortanswers.net and a psychologist and sociologist will answer. A selection of the best questions will be printed every Sunday in The Daily Reflector.


Humans of Greenville


Local photographer Joe Pellegrino explores Greenville to create a photographic census of its people.


September 16, 2018

It should come as no surprise that Pitt Community College found its new president, Lawrence Rouse, just 63 miles down the road in Kenansville.

Rouse is a native of Sumpter, South Carolina, but he spent 13 years in Duplin County as president and CEO of James Sprunt Community College.


Bob Garner

September 16, 2018

How did Carrboro writer and teacher Georgann Eubanks become the leader of the North Carolina Literary and Historical Association?

In a word, she earned a top role in our state’s cultural community by her diligent and unselfish community service that has made things better for all of us. For…


September 16, 2018

Q I am reading your book “The Well-Behaved Child” and have a question that it doesn’t address. I am a single mom with children from two different fathers. One of my ex-husbands (my son’s father) and I have arranged to do regular “child-exchanges.” One weekend,…


September 16, 2018

Q I have been married to my second husband for 24 years. We have a 16-year-old and I have two adult children.

I have moved seven times in 17 years for his job. He didn’t have to quit and take another job, but they were opportunities for him to climb the ladder in his career. I have had to…

Carolyn Hax

September 16, 2018


Dear Short Answers:

I have a wonderful family with three kids, five grandkids and a terrific husband. I’m not sorry about any of the decisions that I made, but I am feeling more and more like I didn’t fully explore the alternatives that seem to be available to…

Short Answers

September 14, 2018

The 99th annual Pitt County American Legion Agricultural Fair is scheduled to be open Tuesday through Sept. 23 at the county fairgrounds, 3910 Martin Luther King Jr. Highway.

The event will feature a children’s barnyard, free shows and exhibits and nearly three dozen carnival rides from…

September 14, 2018

Don’t count your chickens before they hatch, especially during hurricane season.

Weather permitting, the Pitt County American Legion Agricultural Fair will open Tuesday. Canceled following Hurricane Floyd in 1999, the fair has managed to go on almost every year for nearly a century.



September 14, 2018

Editor’s note: The aftermath of Hurricane Florence could cause events to be canceled or postponed. Call for more information.


Pitt County Fair

The 99th annual Pitt County Fair will be held Tuesday-Sept. 23 at the Pitt County Fairgrounds, 3910 MLK Jr. Highway. The opening ceremony will…

September 14, 2018

Q During extended family get-togethers with my side of the family, there is one person who does 95 percent of the talking. When I ask someone else in the room a question about their lives, this person always jumps in and takes over the conversation again. This talker also never inquires about what…

Carolyn Hax

September 14, 2018


Pitt County Arts Council at Emerge will exhibit “The Black Light Project” and “Black Peace” through Sept. 28 in the Don Edwards and Harvey Wooten galleries. “The Black Light Project” is photographic documentary designed to highlight positive images of…

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