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Short Answers, May 13

Short Answers

Paula Forman and Jeff Johnson

Sunday, May 13, 2018


Dear Short Answers: My husband is a huge Yankees fan, and before every game he prays for the Yankees to win. Not only do I think this is a waste of time, but it strikes me as sacrilegious. Does he really think that God is going to help a stupid baseball team win? Does the team with the most people praying for them win? How do I get him to stop? — Offended!

Dear O: You stop. Who knows if God cares about baseball — but your hubbie does. Leave it alone (if you can’t pray along with him).


Dear Short Answers: A woman at work just had a baby (her first) and decided that she wants to come back part-time. Actually, I think she’s getting paid full-time, but she works part-time from home. I think this is massively unfair and if one person can work from home, we all should be able to work from home.

Am I justified in making an official complaint about this to HR? I don’t want the new mom to be punished. I just want the rest of us to be treated the same way! — It’s About Fair

Dear Fair: We hear you. Culturally, we are in an adjustment period. Now that it has been massively documented that working mothers operate at an extreme disadvantage, some companies are bending over backward to accommodate their needs. Think of it as affirmative action for moms. Until the workplace adjusts to the needs of people, not just parents, there are bound to be inequities.

About making a complaint … we think that is ill-advised. You don’t have all the facts. A better approach is to inquire about the policy concerning work from home. And don’t be too surprised if there is none.


Dear Short Answers: When a person announces a death in the family on Facebook, is it appropriate to “like” their post? It seems weirdly morbid to me to “like” something like that. It seems as if you’re saying you’re happy that the person died. — What to Do?

Dear What: Strange 21st century manners. If you know the person, acknowledge the loss in a comment. If the connection is remote, “like” the comment that most approximates your feelings.


Dear Short Answers: My mother is determined to find a “suitable” wife for me. She sets me up on dates with daughters of her friends, girls from church (which I don’t attend) and (I think) random people she meets on the street. My mother has surprisingly good taste and must be pretty persuasive because some of these girls are smart, gorgeous and just might be perfect for me. But every date I go on, it just feels like my mother is in the room and that creeps me out. How do I avoid the overwhelming feeling that this is a blind date set up by my mother and just let things happen as they normally would? — Interested, But

Dear Interested: Maybe she “gets you.” Think of it as online dating with concierge service.


Dear Short Answers: Is 20 stone too heavy to ride a horse? — Big Man

Dear Big Man: We suggest you ask the horse. Very nicely.

Life is complicated. “Short Answers” isn’t. Send a question about whatever is bothering you to reflector@shortanswers.net or go to www.shortanswers.net and a psychologist and sociologist will answer. A selection of the best questions will be printed every Sunday in The Daily Reflector.


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May 27, 2018

"The Garden is Open" sign is still there.

The tulips and azaleas, though well past their height, still glorify the yard.

It is still worth a special trip to Chapel Hill to experience this lovely, well-planned, colorful garden.

But the twin sisters who planned every part of their grounds and…

May 23, 2018

Sometimes presentation is overrated. Eton Mess is a British dessert that’s an unapologetic mishmash of fruit, cream and crumbled meringues folded together and plunked in a glass or bowl. It’s the kind of mix that appeals to kids and adults alike. While you might call it messy,…


May 20, 2018

Weeks after college graduations and weeks before high school ceremonies, St. Paul’s Episcopal Church is having what the Rev. Bob Hudak calls a “commencement” today.

It is not a commencement in which diplomas will be conferred but a commencement in the sense of the beginning of…


May 20, 2018

I read recently about a mama raccoon and her four babies falling through the ceiling and onto the living room couch of a Michigan home.

The closest I ever came to that was a lone dead squirrel that wormed its way around the uncompleted mounting of a new ceiling light fixture, was apparently…

Bob Garner

May 20, 2018


Dear Short Answers: There is a woman in town who is a stay-at-home mom with three children. Every year (actually, three times a year), she throws the most lavish birthday parties for her kids. It makes the rest of us moms look like slackers. Every year, our own kids ask why…

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May 19, 2018


■ Burning Bush United Holy Church, 610 N.C. 43 North, Vanceboro, will have quarterly meeting at 11 a.m. Sunday.

■ Carson Memorial Pentecostal Holiness Church, 1710 Pactolus Highway, will have its annual homecoming service at 11 a.m. Sunday. The group Unshackled will be musical guests.…

May 18, 2018

Capsules of movies playing locally. New releases are indicated with an asterisk.

AVENGERS: INFINITY WAR — The Avengers and their allies must be willing to sacrifice all in an attempt to defeat the powerful Thanos before his blitz of devastation and ruin puts an end to the universe. (2…


May 18, 2018

Diners at Oklahoma’s Tulsa Club must have thought there was something funny going on that spring evening when more than two dozen men met on the roof and spent several hours singing old songs.

Customer complaints about the noise caused the next meeting to be moved to the Hotel Tulsa, but the…


May 18, 2018


Art from Pitt County Schools high school students will be on exhibit from today through June 10 in the Commons Gallery. An opening reception will be held from 5:30-7 p.m. today.

The Greenville Museum of Art is at 802 Evans St. Call 758-1946 or visit gmoa.org.

Gray Gallery

The exhibit “110…


May 16, 2018

Wingstop is a new restaurant at 1885 E. Fire Tower Road next to Baskin Robbins Ice Cream. Enjoy ample seating at artfully decorated tables with an aviation theme, listen to upbeat music and order an array of items from wings to sides from the easy-to-navigate menu.

Wingstop offers three styles of…

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