Q I was looking on my teenage son’s computer and noticed that he’s been looking at porn sites. I’m a single mom and just don’t know what to do. I’ve talked with him about how damaging it is for him to look at these things and he continues to do so. How can I help him understand?

A Many teen boys and girls are caught up in Internet porn. I know it feels awkward as a mom to talk to your son about sexual issues. But it’s a discomfort you have to push past for his sake.

Begin by validating the fact that it’s normal for him to struggle. However, when his sex drive is channeled into casual sex or porn, it’s harmful to him and others. There’s a lot of shame associated with porn and teen sexuality. Don’t pile on more. However, he needs to understand that porn is poisonous and evil. I recommend that you teach your son to play both “defense” and “offense.” Insist that his computer and other devices have accountability and filtering software such as Safe Eyes or Bsecure.

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